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("Best-Of" Edition from 12/12) The Matriarch of Hamiltonia returns. Prioritizing your spouse is ministry.

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0:00 - 15:00. Matthew 19:4-6. Societal destruction proceeds from rejecting God’s way. 15:00 - 31:00. The Matriarch of Hamiltonia returns. Prioritizing your spouse is ministry. 31:00 - 48:00. You should go on a Double Date Night for Valentine’s Day 2025. www.afaaction.net/life To donate call : 877-616-2396

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0:00Darkness is not an affirmative force.
0:03It simply reoccupies the space vacated by the light.
0:07This is the Hamilton Corner on American Family Radio.
0:11It should be uncomfortable for a believer to live as a hypocrite.
0:15Delivery people out of the bondage of mainstream media.
0:18And the philosophies of this world.
0:20God has called you and me to be his ambassador.
0:24Even in this dark moment.
0:26Let's not miss our moment.
0:28And now, the Hamilton Corner.
0:31Good evening, everyone.
0:34Welcome to the Hamilton Corner here on American Family Radio.
0:37I'm your host, Abraham Hamilton.
0:39The third, also welcome to the NRB-TV audience.
0:42Thank you for tuning in to the program.
0:45I am joined by the corner contingent right across from me,
0:48your friendly neighborhood, Woodaholic,
0:52lighting up the dark from in the studio, Mr. Marty Sparks.
0:55You're like, what else is coming?
0:56Ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha, ha,
1:01Birch Maple Oak.
1:06and no match for Mr. Sparks. You better believe it.
1:11No match. And in the screening room we have produced extraordinaire often imitated,
1:16never duplicated, ain't been feeling too good lately, but he's feeling good enough.
1:21You know, he's not like these new NBA players. You know, he's not trying to get a, what you call
1:25a low management day. You know, you're going to play through the injuries. The real Jay
1:31Mac ladies and gentlemen is in the building and we are ready to rock and roll with today's edition
1:35of the program. At this very moment, many of you, if not most of you, are making your transition
1:41from your part-time jobs where you generate an income to your full-time jobs where you
1:45cultivate an outcome. And as you do so, I encourage you to do so with intentionality, understanding
1:53the primacy, the significance, the importance that God places on the family and welcoming
1:58his view to inform ours. You know, we're going to get into this right in this segment,
2:05of the most countercultural things you can do is be married, raise a family in the nurture
2:17and admonition of the Lord, execute the Great Commission starting in your home and participate
2:22in the establishment of a multi-generational legacy of faithfulness to the King of Kings
2:27and the Lord of Lords. Notice I didn't say, just say, get married and have a family, but
2:34commit yourself to your progeny in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.
2:41By God's grace, he will establish that multi-generational legacy as he opens the eyes and hearts to his
2:49salvation.
2:50Now, we're living today all kinds of things are happening.
2:54I mean, we had an inspector general's report from the FBI today that just last year would
3:00have been considered a conspiracy theory to stay out loud.
3:02What are you talking about?
3:03Well, nothing big except the United States Inspector General has now released a report
3:09that showed that the FBI had 26, how did it describe it, confidential human sources that
3:17were at the Capitol on January 6th, January 6th, four of whom actually entered the Capitol
3:22building and 13 of whom entered the restricted area around the Capitol.
3:30That was released today.
3:31Yeah, yeah, yeah.
3:32Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. I know. I know who's conspiracy theory. Just a little. Inspector General's report
3:38reviewed that and I can remember right now, remember my Christopher Ray was squirming when
3:42he was asked that question about FBI personnel mixing in the crowd in an undercover capacity
3:49on January 6th. And just last week we had Supreme Court oral arguments as to whether or
3:57not minor citizens could be protected from general mutilation and chemical castration.
4:03And oh, what do you know?
4:05England now has banned cross-ex hormones, puberty blockers, chemical castration medications,
4:13gender mutilation for minors.
4:14Yep, indefinitely.
4:15Just plain as today, joined Norway, Sweden, France, Denmark and doing the same.
4:19Oh, did I tell you this part?
4:23Joe Biden is planning to conduct the largest part in exercise in the history of our country
4:31over 1,500 people, including among their ranks, people who have been identified as spying
4:36for communist China.
4:38Isn't that interesting?
4:39Oh yes!
4:40I was y'all gonna see Marty's face.
4:41Oh yes!
4:42See, you understand they make the number so big
4:45to make it hard for people to actually tease
4:47through the number of folks that are on the list,
4:48but I wonder why the big guy would do that.
4:56Boy, oh boy, oh boy.
4:57But before we get to any of that,
5:00let us turn to the word of God.
5:03Matthew chapter 19, verses four through six.
5:06Matthew chapter 19, Jesus was questioned
5:09by some lawyers concerning marriage.
5:13And he responded, thusly, verse four.
5:16And he answered and said,
5:17have you not read that he who created them
5:22from the beginning made them male and female?
5:26And for this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother,
5:30excuse me, and be joined to his wife
5:32and the two shall become one flesh.
5:35So they are no longer two, but one flesh.
5:38What therefore God has joined together,
5:41let no man separate. Of course, you've heard me explain before in providing this answer.
5:45Jesus affirms the creation account, what he said in the book of Genesis, quoting from both
5:50Genesis one and Genesis two. It should be noteworthy that when Jesus responds to the
5:57question about marriage, it immediately go to the one flesh union. He begins by a firm
6:01in the fact that there is only two sexes. He made them both male and female announcing
6:07an affirmation of what Regressors today would call the gender binary.
6:12Why would he do so?
6:13Because he's affirming the fact that the foundational rubric for all humankind is the fact that God
6:21has created bearers of his image into iterations, male and female.
6:26That is the binary, if you will, for all of humanity, the fulcrum of the context for fulfillment
6:34of the first command issued to mankind.
6:38unsurprisingly, the most fundamental building block of civilization. There can be no civilizations
6:48without families. There will can be no families as God has ordained them without marriage. They
6:54can be no marriage without one man and one woman. We, however, are living in a society
7:02where we are still reeling from the consequences of the sexual revolution in the 1960s. You
7:10You know, it should not be lost on us that from 2015, June 26, 2015, when the Obergefell
7:16decision was rendered that foisted same sex marriage, no such thing, frankly, as same sex
7:22marriage.
7:23But I understand what they're saying upon the American populace, not even an entire decade
7:28later.
7:29Now we have in a conversation whether or not boys are boys and girls are girls, those things
7:35are connected.
7:37Well, we had the sexual revolution of the 1960s, and many people have succumbed to the idea that
7:47the redefinition of sexual activity is a liberating exercise.
7:52What many people fail to realize is that what the sexual revolution actually intended to
7:57accomplish was not merely revolution concerning physical intimacy.
8:01It was actually cultural revolution with the aim being destruction of civilization.
8:08Now, I can you say that, well, you know, I do this little thing, you know,
8:12it's might be considered revolutionary this day and age.
8:15I read and I pray.
8:19And isn't it interesting that dating back to the communist manifesto, you know,
8:24Moses Mordecai, Mark's Levy and his homeboy,
8:27factory Ingles, first published in 1848.
8:34Many people focused on the communist manifesto and its intended objective of the
8:39Abolition Abolition of Private Property.
8:42It was Abolition of Private Property with the goal
8:45of upending civilization.
8:47But did you know that Marx and Engels postulated
8:51that in order to get to the destruction of private property
8:54and the accomplishment of the proletariat uprising
8:57casting off the oppression of the bourgeoisie,
9:00you wanna know what he sought to destroy
9:02prior to getting to private property?
9:05The family.
9:07I'll read to you from the Communist Manifesto itself.
9:10abolition of the family.
9:12The bourgeois family will vanish as a matter of course
9:16when its complement vanishes.
9:18And both will vanish with the vanishing of capital.
9:24What about education?
9:25You're endeavoring to destroy the most hallowed of relations.
9:30We certainly will do so when we replace home education
9:34with social education.
9:37I'll give you one more.
9:38The bourgeois clap trap about the family and education
9:42about the hallowed correlation of parent and child
9:46has become all the more disgusting.
9:49Isn't that crazy?
9:52Men, 1800s, talking about the abolition of the family.
9:55Well, wouldn't you know, or maybe you didn't know,
9:58that this notion was expanded and applied by another,
10:02Marxist, also known as a critical theorist
10:05by the name of Georgie Lukakis,
10:08who Marx himself was a student, a pupil of Hegel,
10:12remember when we talked about the Hegelian dialectical process?
10:14But Marx got tired of Hegel.
10:16He wanted to use violence to accomplish
10:18Hegel's objectives because it took too long using Hegel.
10:21So he wanted to use violence.
10:22Well, Georgie Lukacs came around
10:24and was a Marxist theorist following,
10:27according to the Marxists, the failures of World War I.
10:29And in the early 1900s, after World War I,
10:33Georgie Lukacs postulated that we need
10:35to accomplish the Marxist program,
10:37but violence is not the primary way to do so.
10:40So he adopted a program called Cultural Terrorism.
10:43You wanna know what the foundation
10:44the cultural terrorism program was?
10:47You guessed it, sexual revolution.
10:50He postulated utilizing eroticism and homosexuality
10:55and sexual anarchy is a terminology he utilized
10:58to destabilize society and in order to accomplish
11:01this the quickest, let's make sure we teach the children
11:03this in the socialized schools.
11:06So they become skeptical of their families
11:08and their parents bourgeoisie, establishment,
11:11and they become allies in the radical objective
11:14of throwing off casting off the bourgeoisie.
11:20This all carried forward into what we now know as
11:24the sexual revolution, when you had people like Kate Millet,
11:26who some of you who were more seasoned
11:28and listened to the program, you remember she,
11:30was on the cover of Time Magazine known as
11:32the Karl Marx of the Women's Movement.
11:35One of her favorite Maximos was this quote,
11:38"'The family is a den of slavery,
11:40"'with the man as the bourgeoisie and the woman
11:43"'and children as the proletariat.
11:46divide the man from his family to have that inner struggle of
11:52oppression within the family. We must break these change hence the description of liberation. Kate
11:59Millen and many others. She's not the only one. But she would go on and say, why have we come here?
12:05Now this is this is this is among the feminists. Why are we gathered for culture revolution was
12:09the response. How do we accomplish this culture revolution? Kate Millen and her feminists allies
12:15would say by destroying the American family, destroying the American family,
12:22destroying monogamy. How do you accomplish this by promoting promiscuity, eroticism, prostitution,
12:28abortion, and homosexuality? See, the push towards promiscuity society has always been aimed at the
12:37ultimate goal, which is destruction of the nuclear family. That is why when you had the
12:42the Berlute Murder, three-letter organization, Channing and using black and gold colors.
12:47And you actually do a little read and you find out that God in principle was, oh, wait a minute,
12:51when they gather, they do so to destroy the nuclear family.
12:57When they gather, they do so to loosen the tight grip of heteronormative thinking.
13:01See, just because the sexual revolution in America in the 1960s might have been new to
13:05some of us, doesn't mean that it was new.
13:08And I'm one of the types of people I don't like being lied to and even in worse than
13:12me a lot to I don't like feeling played and there are many women right now who bought into
13:17the Carrie Bradshaw Sex and the City paradigm not knowing that they were merely cannon fodder
13:24in a civilizational cultural war, the goal of which was destruction of the family,
13:34which is why I am saying to you one of the major things that must be re-approached,
13:41Revisited, understood once again is the centrality of the family to God's plan with marriage at the center.
13:50The virtues of marriage should be lauded. The longevity of marriages should be celebrated.
13:56Boys should be trained and prepared to be husbands and fathers.
14:00Girls should be prepared and trained to be wives and mothers.
14:04Boys and girls should understand, embrace, and anticipate the glories of parenthood
14:09because the only way to course correct is by resubmitting ourselves to God's way.
14:17So to the young brother, I know it's hard out there, it's hard out there in these streets,
14:20but listen, I'm saying don't give up. Don't give up because contrary to popular belief, marriage is
14:26ministry. The marital union is the only human institution that God describes in His holy word
14:33as being illustrative of Christ, Christ and His church. It's a big deal to God and it must be
14:42a big deal to us.
14:44So when you see people struggling in the areas of marriage,
14:48you must understand that it's not merely
14:50a natural phenomenon, Satan hates marriage.
15:01A discipleship minute with Joseph Parker.
15:04The most exciting, fulfilling, and satisfying life
15:06you can possibly live is the life you live
15:09as you walk out God's call on your life.
15:12The wisest and best life you can possibly live
15:14is the life of embracing and running after the call of God.
15:18But his calling in your life must be accepted
15:21and then lived out faithfully.
15:23You can accept his calling and live it out
15:24by the power of the Holy Spirit and become
15:28a great blessing to the world.
15:30Or you can run from your calling.
15:32However, doing so will only lead
15:34to a very frustrated, unfulfilled life.
15:37It will result in a waste of a lot of money,
15:40energy and time if you run from your calling.
15:43And be aware of this, wasted time is wasted life.
15:47Then maybe after years of frustration,
15:50if you live long enough, maybe you can say,
15:53okay God, I will now do what you told me to do years ago.
16:04Shiting light into the darkness,
16:07this is the Hamilton Corner, an American family radio.
16:10Welcome back to the Hamilton Corner, Abraham Hamilton III.
16:13And let me be clear about something I know for a fact,
16:16the Lord explains to us in this word,
16:18that there is a vocation of singleness.
16:20And I've explained this before,
16:22but understand that is a specified vocational call from God.
16:27Those who God calls to singleness vocationally,
16:30they also are blessed with the gift of celibacy.
16:36If you're not blessed with the gift of celibacy,
16:38you're probably not called to the vocation of singleness.
16:41And you can't just, we're on a block,
16:43we call it a jump claim, the vocation of singleness,
16:45just because you've had a horrible relationship history.
16:49Considering that the first command is,
16:51What the first command is that God gave to mankind,
16:53the default posture for the majority of people
16:55will be marriage,
16:58pro-creative physical intimacy,
16:59and rearing families
17:02within the covenantal context of the marital union.
17:05I will not ignore the fact that there is a vocation
17:07of singleness, but as I said, it is in fact a vocation.
17:10So what am I saying?
17:12I am saying, the brothers say, not me.
17:14I ain't got that gift.
17:17So I would have a conversation with you,
17:22And I've brought, y'all have to forgive me
17:24if I appear a little distracted.
17:26But my favorite guest for all time, man.
17:31I'm telling, I love this guest so much.
17:33I said, listen, I know what the drill is
17:35gonna be an eternity, but you gonna hang out with me?
17:37We ain't having with Jesus.
17:39She said, yeah.
17:41I'm talking about none other than my lovely wife,
17:44Mrs. Maria Hamilton, mother to my six children,
17:48matriarch of Hamiltonia, and an excellent apologist.
17:53I was at home today when she was teaching our children.
17:57Oh my.
17:58You know, I was listening.
17:59I snuck in on a little break,
18:02walking through the scripture with my children
18:03for which I am greatly grateful for your commitment
18:07to the Lord and serving our families.
18:08Thank you for joining me here on the program, babe.
18:09Thank you babe, thank you for having me.
18:11Well, it is truly my pleasure.
18:13And I asked you to marry me a while ago.
18:16And you're still here.
18:19But what I wanted to talk to you about,
18:22with a few of our closest friends,
18:24is the significance and the importance of prioritizing your spouse.
18:28I don't mean that in a self-serving manner.
18:30I mean me prioritizing you and you prioritizing me
18:36and recognizing that that is ministry
18:39because one of the things that can occur and often does occur,
18:42that when you have busy lives
18:45and you have children, it's very easy
18:47to allow the cultivation of your union
18:50to become a secondary consideration,
18:52but that shouldn't be, should it?
18:54know, it shouldn't. And it's interesting how we have, we've learned that throughout the years
18:59that we've been married. But I think we've always tried our best to go back to our greatest
19:05example of that, you know, scripturally. Biblical the Lord reveals to us that the best example
19:11for marriage is Christ and his bride. And so from the bride's perspective, right from the
19:18wise perspective, it is incredibly important that we die to our flesh as we, as Christians,
19:26die to our flesh to serve our King, to serve Jesus.
19:30So that being our best example, it's incredibly important that I died in my flesh and that
19:36I put you first.
19:37And then as Jesus did, when he loved us as his church, he laid his life down for us.
19:43So likewise, that's the best example for husbands to lay themselves down for their wives.
19:48So if that, if we do that, and if it works the way that got intended to work, then it works
19:54best.
19:55It is the best for our, for our union.
19:58So I think we've tried our best.
20:00There have been moments, you know, of course the flesh comes in, but when we try to do that
20:04and we try our best to do that by the spirit in that way, he's glorified, man.
20:09He's glorified in our marriage.
20:11It truly is one of the major things that I think people fail to recognize or even to consider
20:18is what God is actually seeking to accomplish by ordaining the one flesh union.
20:25It is one of the primary means that God causes, I'll use the man, for example, because I am
20:29a man, contrary to what Katanji Brown Jackson may or may not be confused about, is that
20:33is one of the major things that God does to cause me as a man to transition from a life
20:39of being an individual responsible for myself, but to taking on the God, the God ordained
20:47quality of self sacrifice, selflessness, and an active affirmative demonstrable willingness
20:59to lay my life down on a daily basis.
21:01It is inherent to the union.
21:05And the exact same thing happens correspondingly to the wife as a result of this prior to being
21:11married, my thoughts, my focus, my understanding.
21:14It was me exclusively and you know it was for sure because we made after Hurricane Katrina,
21:19I'm just trying to survive.
21:21But then the Lord brings you into my life, hey, somebody tell the Lord, thank you.
21:24It moves me to a different focal point.
21:27And so the attendant responsibility in that includes not just what occurs in the pursuit,
21:34but also in the cultivation of the union post marriage.
21:38And by doing so, I have an investment, requires vulnerability.
21:42But then when that investment is reciprocated, it causes there to be a wonderful union.
21:47How would you articulate that or explain that to someone who may inquire?
21:51I think the issue, because I think people can understand how you just explained it in
21:56the grand scheme of things, like the big umbrella vision of it and understanding.
22:01But I think the difficulty is the day to day.
22:04How do I put you first every day?
22:06How do you put me first every day?
22:08So I think that the difficulty is when, like you said,
22:12we are used to your way, you process things your way,
22:14you are yourself, you think a certain way
22:19and desire things for yourself,
22:21but then you're constantly putting the other person first.
22:24And I know that it's funny,
22:25but our kids make fun of us,
22:27because often our arguments are,
22:30no, what do you wanna watch?
22:31No, what do you wanna watch?
22:32No, what do you wanna watch?
22:33And it sounds so cheesy,
22:34but it's true because it's always like,
22:35man, whatever you want, like it's cool.
22:37And then it's like, it's but it's reciprocated.
22:39So then it's like, what are we gonna watch?
22:40You know, pick something to watch.
22:43But I think that it's difficult
22:46when this is maybe something new.
22:49And it was new to us once upon a time we were married
22:51and never really having the experience
22:54of what it should look like.
22:55You know, a godly marriage should look like.
22:56And so the Lord has been showing us
22:58and killing our flesh.
23:01And so it's the day to day,
23:04it's the practical moments.
23:06Of course, understanding our roles,
23:07that's incredibly important in this conversation.
23:09It's like, do you man your lane?
23:12Do you man your role as a husband?
23:13Do I man my lane?
23:14Do I man my role as a wife?
23:16And then when those two work together,
23:18then we can work intentionally daily
23:24about prioritizing not only your desires,
23:28but like in my case, I would be helping you
23:35function in your role freely and fully.
23:38And then you would also aid and facilitate me functioning in my role freely and fully,
23:44which is very empowering on both ends, just in case anybody needs the word empowerment out there for women.
23:48It's true, as they're empowering to feel like your husband facilitates you freely being the woman of the house,
23:54and then for the wife to prioritize his role in the home as leader.
24:00And so that is God's design.
24:03Now, we have all kinds of things coming into our marriages, right?
24:06and we have to shed the selfishness and the self-centeredness
24:10and we have to shed the focus on me first,
24:16but welcome to Christianity.
24:18I'm not even trying to like,
24:19right here, it's true, welcome to Christianity
24:21because it is dying to the flesh daily
24:23to put somebody else first.
24:24And as moms, we can do it easier with our children
24:27and harder for our husbands, and that's wrong.
24:29The Lord wants us to focus on ourselves first
24:32and then the children.
24:33That's an interesting point that you raise.
24:38Sometimes you say it for wives,
24:39it can be easier when there's children in the picture,
24:41but less, but more difficult whenever
24:43thanks to your husband, why?
24:45And of course, I'm not asking you to be
24:47the representative for all women.
24:48I'm just saying from what you've experienced
24:51from your vantage point in what you've seen,
24:53why does it appear to be more difficult
24:56to implement and operate with that selfless disposition
25:00when it comes to one's husband,
25:03when it's a bit more easy to do with one's children.
25:05I think the most practical and basic reason would be
25:09because the children need things
25:12and you gotta grow and husband, you know what I mean?
25:14So the argument can be made in the flesh
25:17that well they need me, right?
25:18Like their needs need to be met.
25:20And I'm the one responsible for meeting every single one
25:23of their needs and Abe, you're grown.
25:25You got yourself and you take care of yourself.
25:28And so then that's when the union starts drifting away
25:32from each other because you have different missions
25:34and you're caring for yourselves individually,
25:36independently, because I'm worried about the kids.
25:40Or you're worried about your work.
25:41You know, whatever it is that's gonna come between,
25:43you know what I mean?
25:44But I think basically it's that,
25:45it's like the kids can care for them.
25:46I mean, the kids cannot care for themselves,
25:48so therefore I have to be all for them,
25:51do all for them, especially when they're little.
25:52And then if you do that,
25:54this is where the enemy creeps in,
25:56if you do that so much when they're little,
25:58because that's when they really need you the most,
26:00then as they grow up and they don't need you as much,
26:03you've already fractured the union
26:06because you've worked for the children
26:08and not focused on your husband.
26:10And so that's just from my experience,
26:12you know that it's easy.
26:13It's so easy to wake up every day.
26:14What do they need?
26:15Boom, boom, boom, breakfast, et cetera.
26:17They need the things that they need
26:18and then you're gonna work and it's like, all right.
26:20And you know what I mean?
26:21But if we are intentionally cultivating daily regularly
26:24and it takes both, right?
26:25That can't just be me, but so it takes both of us.
26:28Cultivating that relationship is extremely important
26:30to maintain that oneness.
26:33And then from that oneness comes that selfless,
26:35sacrificial love, you know.
26:37Yeah.
26:37Now, one of the major things that we see
26:39that really strives against that oneness
26:42is really a worldly picture of what marriage is.
26:45You even, you know, you even got the whole
26:48I've heard it referred to this movie often.
26:50Juba Gooding Jr. and Tom Cruise is in a movie.
26:53Oh, complete me.
26:55You know, people have this expectation that it's,
26:58well wait, we're not, you thought it'd do something for me.
27:00Again, Mary, you're supposed to, I don't think that I'm,
27:03I'm, I'm, I'm, right.
27:03He made her.
27:04How do you reconcile if not reconcile,
27:07how do you overcome that societal expectation
27:12in embracing and I'm thinking all kind of responses
27:15in my own head, but how do you respond
27:18to that societal expectation within the marriage
27:20when you're endeavoring to be a godly marriage?
27:23And godly husband and a godly husband
27:24and a godly husband.
27:25I was just talking to the kids this morning.
27:26Yeah, I'm sorry.
27:27I was just talking to the kids this morning
27:28about self-actualization, because we're living in a time
27:33where the norm of humanity is to please themselves, right?
27:38To satisfy their flesh, to live for themselves,
27:40to seek their own, and love is the opposite of that.
27:44And so we live practically daily with that aim,
27:50with that goal, like that is a chief and a mankind,
27:52to be happy, to make yourself happy.
27:54So when you come into a union and you say,
27:56what are you gonna do for me?
27:57like how are you going to make me happy?
28:00Right now mind you,
28:00we're talking about prioritizing each other, right?
28:03But it's different from what are you gonna do for me
28:06to make me happy?
28:07Because then I'm thinking about my self-actualization.
28:11I'm saying you need to come and do whatever you need to do
28:15to make sure I'm good.
28:16That is not God's way.
28:17That's not what we mean when we say prioritize each other
28:19and love sacrificially and selflessly.
28:21But I think that in the church,
28:23because it infiltrates our worldview,
28:27We think that that is what is supposed to be,
28:29that you need to make me happy.
28:30And when you stop making me happy,
28:31then I'm mad and then it's not gonna work.
28:33And then of course the other person is the same way.
28:35But that's not what we're saying when we say prioritize,
28:37we are saying selflessly,
28:39sacrificially love, which means that if I am selflessly,
28:44sacrificially loving you,
28:46you are not sitting over there
28:48with your self actualization ways in worldview,
28:51saying, yeah, fan me, fan me, come and give me,
28:54but you are equally selflessly,
28:56sacrificially loving me.
28:57So then it works the best way.
28:59So anyways, it's just the way that God
29:01ordained for it to be,
29:02but we live in an old fallen world
29:04and we in the church have embraced
29:05the mentality of the world.
29:06Now I want to mention this
29:08and I think this is a good time to mention it
29:10as we continue our conversation
29:11because you refer to prioritizing your marriage.
29:15I refer to prioritizing your marriage.
29:17We will be a part of something.
29:19And I know this is December.
29:21And I know we have all kinds of things
29:23that are front burner at the moment,
29:24you know, the Christmas holiday,
29:25the New Year, all these other kind of things.
29:27But I wanna put this on your radar,
29:29let you know there's an opportunity for you
29:31who are listening and watching to prioritize your marriages,
29:35because my wife and I are joining our friends,
29:38really our family, Will and Mickey Addison,
29:40in an event called Double Date Night.
29:43This is a marriage enrichment celebration
29:48that is being put on by the Culture Proof Ministry.
29:51This is a ministry that Will and Mickey Addison
29:52are leading now, this will take place February 14th, 2025.
29:59There's also gonna be a special guest, Todd Wilson,
30:01who is hilarious if you ever seen it.
30:04So if you were wondering, you know what,
30:05you may not be wondering right now,
30:07but if you were wondering, man, what can we do
30:09for to celebrate our marriage?
30:11This upcoming Valentine's Day,
30:13well, you don't have to wonder anymore.
30:14That's right.
30:15Because you can come to Double Date Night.
30:16This will take place as I mentioned February 14th, 2025
30:20in Tupolem, Mississippi at the Caehan's Bank Conference Center.
30:24At the Caehan's Bank Conference Center,
30:25but here's the thing,
30:26you have to reserve your seats by January 14th.
30:29That's why I'm talking to you about it now.
30:31You have to reserve your seats by January 14th, 2025.
30:34Now this is gonna be a different kind of event.
30:36It's not gonna be where you're just coming to sit down
30:38and hear some speakers.
30:39There gonna be some games being played.
30:41There will be some ministry that takes place in terms
30:43of teaching and things of that nature,
30:45but there's gonna be all kind of fun
30:46and all kind of other things going on.
30:48but just a little bit, what can people,
30:50well, I think that if anybody has ever met us
30:53or like know us and know the Addison's like,
30:56we're just a hot mess, you know?
30:58And it's gonna be fun.
30:59So no, we are very intentional about coming together
31:03to do the work of the Lord, us and the Addison's
31:05and love them dearly.
31:06And so we know how the enemy has attacked marriage
31:10and how important it is to teach and instruct and all that,
31:13but to live amongst other believers and encourage them.
31:17And so we're gonna be having fun.
31:17We're gonna play games.
31:19It's gonna be a blast.
31:19I already know it.
31:20So looking forward to it very much.
31:21Yes, and your registration also will include
31:24a multi-course meal.
31:26It's gonna be a blast.
31:27Now one thing that's unique about this event,
31:30it's for husbands and wives,
31:32it's for husband and wives and adults only.
31:34There'll be no childcare.
31:36So this will be an opportunity to invest in your marriage,
31:39to cultivate your marriage.
31:40And there are all kinds of things that are happening.
31:43People at different stages in lives that you're having,
31:45any type of concerns.
31:47or if you have in the time of your life,
31:48you all will be able to benefit from this.
31:51We'll put the details in the show notes.
31:55If you're watching the show,
31:56you'll see the screen where the flyer's available for you.
31:58You can go to cultureproof.net,
32:00that is the website, cultureproof.net.
32:02Just look at the top left hand side of the screen
32:05where you'll see date nights, double date nights.
32:08And we will be there.
32:10I am so looking forward to it.
32:12Oh yeah, but the car'll say food too, yes sir.
32:15Food will be available, multi-course meals,
32:17is gonna be an opportunity for you to dress accordingly.
32:21You can come on with your savoir fare
32:24because we're gonna have a great time.
32:26It's gonna have a great time.
32:27I would love to see you there.
32:29The Kingsbank Conference Center is where it all,
32:32it will all take place.
32:34People from all over the country will be available,
32:35but you have to register before January 14th.
32:39You don't wanna miss out on this
32:41because as I mentioned, this will be an opportunity
32:44to invest in exactly what we're talking about,
32:46prioritize your marriage.
32:50The disrespectful music is here,
32:52but when we come back from the break,
32:53Marie and I will continue a conversation about marriage.
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34:17I was I forgot to mention that seating is limited. So if you want to come or if you have a friend or a family member
34:23that wants to come to double date night on
34:26Valentine's Day 2025 you need to send them the link as soon as possible culture proof.net
34:31Send them the link so they that they can register because I would hate for you to want to come and then by the time you make up
34:37Your mind is too late and then I there's not anymore room for you
34:42It's gonna be an amazing amazing time
34:44Culture proof.net double night. Jank
34:46January 14th, 2025 is the last day you can register.
34:51February 14th, 2025, is it able to all transpires?
34:54You can see why you need to be registered by January 14th,
34:58so they can know how much food we need to have,
35:00plan accordingly, table settings, the whole deal,
35:03because it's going to be quite the affair,
35:06unzus nazu affair.
35:08We're gonna have a great time celebrating God's design
35:11for marriage and strengthening marriages on that evening.
35:15I want to continue the conversation we were having
35:17because prioritizing one's spouse many times
35:22can feel like, oh man, I feel like I have to sacrifice myself
35:28and put myself on the back burner in order
35:30to address what's happening with you.
35:33And this is something that's come up as we've
35:35conferred with people on different points.
35:38How would you respond to that when someone says,
35:40but it seems like you're just trying to set the pattern
35:42for me to make myself a doormat, to be walked all over.
35:45Yeah, yeah.
35:46And that's very normal, a very normal reaction,
35:50because anytime the Lord calls you to defeat your flesh
35:53and to die to your flesh,
35:54you feel like you're being trampled upon,
35:55because you're always taking the risk
35:57that you're gonna be trampled upon, right?
35:59We know that when God says, you know,
36:02when we are supposed to say, not my will, but your will,
36:05and God calls us to surrender any area of our lives,
36:10it is a vulnerable moment.
36:11You are taking a risk,
36:13But the good thing about doing that with the Lord
36:15is that you know that he is perfect
36:16and that he is a loving father
36:17and that he is not going to tremble all over you.
36:20But you have to be willing.
36:21Like that's just the reality.
36:22You gotta be willing to surrender,
36:25to let it go, to lose control,
36:27and to hope, in this case with our marriage,
36:30hope that you will not harm me and hurt me and abuse me.
36:34And so that's the same thing that we deal with.
36:39So like, no, I don't wanna be a doormat.
36:40But if you love Christ and you understand your role
36:43servant leader and you also understand your role as a cultivator where you cover and protect
36:49and you're the priest of the home, then when I make myself vulnerable and prioritize you and put
36:56my feelings to the side and my preferences to the side and my wishes to the side and I say,
37:01you know, whatever you desire or let's focus on what you want to do, then you don't abuse that,
37:06you don't take advantage of it, you don't selfishly seek your own, but you selflessly love me back.
37:13And so I am always taking a risk and you are always taking a risk and we are fleshly and so we can you always take
37:20a risk of being abused. But the hope is that as we're growing in Christ, we don't abuse each other.
37:25And when I say abuse, I mean, use abnormally, like really wrongly use your gift, your telling,
37:31your, you know, your because we can easily manipulate, you know, all that is abuse. And so, yeah,
37:37door mat status is not fun, but you have to be willing to take a risk with your spouse.
37:41And if both of you are on the same page, then it's the healthiest.
37:47Right now, again, we can talk about, and I don't know if you want to go there,
37:49but I'm not going to broach it too far if you don't want to, but we can talk about
37:52when one spouse is willing and the other one isn't, and then you are,
37:54you do really do feel like you're a doormat, you know, and then the abuse can come.
37:57And the, you know, that's why that's what we have to be on the same page.
38:00Yeah, we definitely will go there, but I was going to say this is why we have to
38:03understand, first of all, we're talking about marriage between believers.
38:06And the responsibility, my responsibility as a leader is to be
38:11a servant leader as unto the Lord. Your responsibility in our marriage is to be a wife as unto the
38:18Lord. When I recognize that I am accountable to God for how I conduct myself as it pertains to his
38:27daughter, it causes a righteous reverence, a holy fear to rest on my heart, to know that how I respond
38:34to you is something I am accountable to God for. The scripture even gives us an indication of that.
38:41is description commands, husbands to dwell with our wives
38:44in an understanding manner so that our prayers are not hindered.
38:48God explains that a husband instructs husbands
38:52to understand that dwelling with our wives is so critical,
38:56so vital that our prayer life will be actually augmented
39:00or limited based on that phenomenon.
39:02And so that it really is one of the things
39:05that provokes a circumspection as it pertains
39:09to interacting with you as my wife,
39:11because it's not just you for me, me, for you,
39:13it is in reference to and submission to the Lord,
39:17which is why believing married people need to understand
39:22that our responsibility to be Christ-like
39:24doesn't stop once we enter the threshold of our homes.
39:28We have a mandate to be Christ-like
39:30to our spouses first, first,
39:34and understand that God has hold on us accountable for that.
39:36Now you raise this scenario, how do we navigate
39:40a circumstance when you have one?
39:42You can pick whichever one you want.
39:43One spouse that's willing to, but you have the other,
39:46that is less willing to repent from their sin
39:50as demonstrated within the confines
39:54of the relationship with their spouse.
39:55I think like you just explained a little bit ago,
39:57if we have the perspective that our marriage
40:02is one for the other, like I'm for you and you're for me,
40:06only and it stays in the playing field of humanity in a humanistic sense.
40:10What happens is that we lose focus on the goal, right, on what the purpose is.
40:18So if our perspective is not that, but rather it is that God has called us to be Christians,
40:25he saved us by his grace.
40:27So we are his people.
40:29So the way that I operate and think of myself as and conduct myself as a Christian, it affects
40:39how I operate, conduct myself as a wife.
40:42So if my perspective is I do all things to the glory of God, then I'm going to relate to
40:47you in that manner.
40:49I do everything to the glory of God.
40:51And it, and it, it absolves us of abuse.
40:54And one person, let's say that you are not the greatest husband ever to have walked this
41:00earth.
41:01Just so not true.
41:04And I'm dealing with an unbelieving husband or a rebellious husband or a backslidden and
41:09all of these things or even abusive.
41:11And I'm not talking about physically but just emotionally and things like that.
41:14And there's a lot of hurt and pain and years of abuse and all of that in those ways.
41:20This sounds really, really, can, can sound really cold and I don't mean it cold.
41:24But we are not absolved of being Christ-like.
41:28And again, when we have the purpose perspective on the matter, then we can still contend and
41:35cry out to the Lord for faithfulness in honoring Him as I, for example, in my scenario, relate
41:40to you.
41:41Right?
41:42And the Bible says that Peter, I believe, is the one that instructs, and it tells, I can't
41:45remember if it's Peter or not now, but that the wife pretty much needs to be godly so
41:50that her husband can be won for the Lord by her conduct.
41:53will be one for the Lord. Now, it's not that, you know, I set out to save you or to, if I
41:58marry you, you know, if we get married and you're not a believer or whatever, but it's not my job
42:01to save you, but it is still my job to be Christ-like toward you. Like there's no excuse, right? And
42:06it's very difficult. I'm not saying that that is easy to do. It is very difficult, which is why
42:09we need the Holy Spirit. And so, to your original point in question, there can be, we are, we can
42:18be on the on different pages on matters and there can be one that's unbelieving or abusive or whatever.
42:23And, but that's still, because if it's you for me and me for you,
42:27then I can justify why I don't need to be godly toward you, right?
42:30Because you're not being godly to me, so therefore you don't deserve
42:33for me to be kind to you and all the things.
42:35But in reality, none of us deserve nothing.
42:37And so we are here to honor God.
42:39So I'm still obligated, it sounds really harsh, but I am still,
42:43I still have to give an account to the Lord on what kind of wife I am to you.
42:47Now, this really brings to the fore
42:52and instruction and scripture that unfortunately in modern times many believers have not taken as seriously as they should
42:59All right, the scripture gives clear instruction
43:03That believers are not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers
43:07You know and I know that some people they like to try to truncate that to quote just say unequally
43:12Oh, no, the scripture says not to be unequally yoked together with unbelievers now
43:16I understand we live in a fallen world
43:17We have all kind of scenarios
43:19But I want to just go back to what the standard should be
43:23Whenever I had the have had and I continue to have the opportunity
43:27to to to counsel couples before marriage. That's one of the first things you talk about
43:33Are you believers? You know because
43:35We must have a mutual submission to the authority of God's word the word of God must have the final say on all matters of life
43:42Doctrine and practice point blank period in the sentence that it has to be there
43:47There have been many people for a host of reasons.
43:50I can't tell you the number of times I've heard, oh, he's a Christian.
43:54He's a nice guy.
43:55Or, you know, she's very nice.
43:57I don't know if she's a Christian.
44:00Okay.
44:01I don't ask you if they were nice.
44:04I don't ask you if they were physically appealing to you.
44:06I don't ask you any other answer where they believe us.
44:08And all too often, many believers allow that conversation to be something relegated to secondary,
44:15tertiary.
44:16And to that at some point, if we're trying to make something happen, I'd simply say I would caution that the Word of God is right.
44:25That the Word of God is true. That as a threshold matter, believers should seek to be married to believers.
44:33Yeah, it's an uphill battle. It's an uphill battle if you're unequally yoked in that sense, like spiritually.
44:39It's not hopeless. And when you get married, you get married and we work at it.
44:44You know what I mean?
44:44It's not a reason to lose hope or to quit,
44:48but it is definitely hard.
44:50And marriage doesn't have to be hard.
44:52It does not have to be hard.
44:54It could be joy-filled.
44:55It should be joy-filled actually,
44:57because if we do it as unto the Lord,
44:58and we come together to fulfill the mission
45:01and the vision that God has given us,
45:03then we impact darkness.
45:05And so that's joyful, that's amazing, that's awesome.
45:07And so marriage doesn't need to be difficult,
45:09but it does take down to the flesh.
45:12And again, Christ-likeness is what we're called to.
45:15We're not called to comfort and ease of life.
45:18We are called to dying daily and picking up our cross
45:21and following Him.
45:22Is He not worthy?
45:23Is He not worthy?
45:24And so it's, I just feel like, you know,
45:27let's go to war then, let's do this.
45:29Like if we, if you are in a,
45:31if you find yourself in a marriage that is difficult,
45:33you know, where you're on opposite sides of the spectrum
45:36or, you know, not seeing out of eye on matters, man,
45:40let's go to war because the enemy wants to destroy,
45:42what God has united for his purposes.
45:44And so then if you can't never change your husband
45:47and husband, you can never change your wife,
45:49but you can change yourself.
45:50And you can submit to the Lord and the Lord
45:51can transform your heart.
45:52And so that's my encouragement that we would do that daily.
45:56How can I be a better, how can I be a better believer?
45:58How can I be a better representative of Christ in my home?
46:01How can I be a better wife to my husband?
46:04And so if that is in the forefront of our minds daily,
46:06then practically speaking,
46:08we can conduct ourselves in that manner.
46:11you know, selflessly.
46:13One of the major things that can become a source of frustration,
46:16if we don't understand what's going on
46:18nor how to properly approach it,
46:20is that one of the primary functions of the Meritoo Union
46:23that God has designed it this way,
46:25is that it is to be a sanctifying agent.
46:28That one of the major things that God seeks
46:32to accomplish through the Meritoo Union
46:33is that the individuals within the Union
46:36become more godly, more Christ-like crucified,
46:39more of the flesh because they are married.
46:42the person's closest to you often serve as a mirror.
46:45So you can really see where you are.
46:49And when some of that fleshliness that may be in there,
46:52I wanna assume how much is there,
46:54but that is likely in there, is brought to the surface,
46:58we can misunderstand what's going on.
47:00And if we do, we can say, oh, you are just this,
47:03you are the object of my frustration when in reality,
47:06God is allowing them to be a vessel by which
47:10your own sinfulness is bubbling to the surface,
47:14so that it can be acknowledged, confessed,
47:17and repented from.
47:18But if we don't have an understanding,
47:20what types of frustrations can take place within a unit?
47:22Well, we started taking each other as if we're the enemy.
47:25And I always say, you know, when we are one
47:27and we strive for that unity,
47:30then anything that comes between us as a foreign agent,
47:32it's coming in to divide and destroy.
47:34And that's what the enemy wants to do.
47:36And so we need to keep in the forefront of our minds
47:38regularly, and I'm speaking to myself also
47:40that we are called to be won by God,
47:44and he has demonstrated what that looks like in life,
47:48like when he was on earth, when Jesus was incarnate,
47:50on earth, before he ascended,
47:53he literally demonstrated what it meant to love
47:55self-esteem sacrificially.
47:57And so we are called to do that for our spouses.
48:00Amen, amen, we are called to that.
48:03And the lack of that being prevalent
48:08really is a feature of demonic strategy.
48:11You know, when I started out in the first segment talking
48:13about the abolition of the family,
48:14it's central to the Marxist paradigm.
48:19We have downstream consequences.
48:21We have the prevalence of broken homes,
48:22children being reared in broken homes,
48:24children being conscripted, if you will,
48:27to grow up without either their fathers
48:29or their mothers in their home.
48:31They lose out on an aspect of their own pedagogy,
48:34their own training that God really would have for them
48:36to enjoy so that they're not, you know,
48:38on the job training if and when they get married.
48:41Oh, okay.
48:43Yeah, I just thought you were gonna close, I'm sorry.
48:45Yeah, no, that's true.
48:46And you know what's interesting, when you met in Matthew,
48:48if you keep going down after he's discussing divorce
48:51and then he says, you know, the quotes from Genesis,
48:54he later on, that's when the disciples bring the kids to him
48:58and he says, bring them onto me, you know,
48:59it's interesting how that order is designed by God, right?
49:02To tend to the union first, to that mayoral union first
49:05and then to the children.
49:07And that's demonstrated in Matthew.
49:08Glory to God.
49:11This is why you need to come to Double Date Night,
49:13February 14th, 2025, go to cultureroof.net
49:16to get your to register to save your seats.
49:19It will be limited.
49:21So if you want to come,
49:22you got to get your registration in early,
49:24you get to hear far more.
49:26Because I know more people want to hear you and see you
49:29than they want to hear and see me.
49:30You get to come in here, my wife, Will Addison,
49:33Amiki Addison, February 14th, 2025.
49:35Y'all have a great evening.
49:39The views and opinions expressed in this broadcast
49:41may not necessarily reflect those of the American Family Association or American Family Radio.

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